#19: Midterm Season

Hey peeps!

Long time, no post. I know, I know. But I promise I’ll be back soon! I wanted to check-in to let you know that last week was Spring Break for me and now I have midterms all week (p.s. send help), which is why I haven’t posted in a while. I’ll be back on my flow as soon as these tests are over!

Although this isn’t my usual weekly reflections post, I wanted to leave you with a few gems and favorites to hold you over until the weekend:

  • What you should think about: Take the time to figure out what you TRULY value, be honest with yourself, and spend more time doing things that align with that. What do you value the most? Work, relationships, your health? How are you spending your time now?
  • Fav natural product you should try: If you haven’t tried African Black Soap, I HIGHLY recommend it. Especially if you have “problem” or “acne-prone” skin.
    • Note: you’ll likely find this at any beauty supply store near you, but I included a link to an “Amazon’s choice” African Black Soap. The tip I’ll give with buying these soaps is to choose those that look less neat and more “earthy”. There are marketed African Black Soaps that are completely black and smooth, but I’ve read that for the best quality soap you should go with the ones that look closer to this:

 

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Source: Google Images – Cleopatra’s Choice

 

May we all prosper this week — and may these test scores be ON POINT. Sending you positive vibes, always.

Valencia Saint-Louis

#6: Blessed, Overwhelmed, and Braided

Happy Sunday! Let me update you on what’s been going on recently.

For starters I had a wonderful birthday weekend celebration FILLED with partying, food, friends, and cake. My friends threw me a surprise party, and for the first time I went to the Cheesecake Factory! Their ‘Oreo Dream Extreme Cheesecake’ is amazing, and I’m missing it.

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With another year under my belt, I’m really excited to start another one. As I read my cards and spend time with loved ones, I find myself more mindful of the fact that these moments matter. I feel a wave of gratitude wash over me as I receive hugs, beautiful words, and massive amounts of affection. I’m a believer that every day we are alive is a blessing; a blessing that prompts us to create and decide. I’d like to add to that.

Every day is a blessing for us to create, decide, and love.

Aside from all the wonderful birthday wishes, I’ve felt pretty overwhelmed by the amount of work I’ve taken on. You know when you bite off more than you can chew? I took a realllllly big bite.

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I’m grateful for all the opportunities that have been attracted into my life, but it’s been difficult trying to manage it all. As a student, I’ve found some helpful organizational habits that have put my schoolwork in place. If you’re a student, or know someone who is, check out this article I wrote for HerCampus with tips and apps that will make the semester less stressful.

Lastly, I put my hair into braids! I’m going natural, and wanted to try a protective hairstyle before I trim my hair (I’m transitioning instead of big-chopping). I’m looking to learn as much about natural hair as possible. I’ve searched up Youtubers, asked friends, and researched on various websites. If you have any resources or helpful information, please comment below!

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No, this picture’s not of me. It’s of a beautiful goddess named Amandla Sternberg! Also shout out to the beauty that’s in the header photo! Not sure of what her name is, but we should be friends. I like her glow!

Weekly Favorites

From Monday to Sunday I enjoyed lots of good food, music, and conversation. Here’s some of what I enjoyed most:

  1. Nine Track Mind (Deluxe Album) by Charlie Puth – My favorite songs are Suffer, Some Love, River, and of course Attention.
  2. Holy by Jamila Woods – this song makes me feel so calm and empowered.
  3. He Like That by Fifth Harmony. I can’t stop watching the music video for this song! These women are incredible, and their songs are really catchy!
  4. “Our mission right now is to get better, to get disciplined. It might take some time to master all the elements, but that’s how it’s supposed to be. Aang didn’t master fire, water, earth, and air in one day” – paraphrased motivation from my accountability partner and best friend! (shout out to those who know all about Avatar: The Last Airbender… no that’s not the movie with blue people)
  5. The Cheesecake Factory! The avocado egg rolls made me melt. Also the cheesecake I mentioned earlier *drools on keyboard*

This week was eventful and beautiful. Cheers to another one filled with food for the soul, mind and body! I intend on being fully present, and productive this upcoming week. What about you?

All the best,

Valencia Saint-Louis

#4: After the Fog (Life Update)


Life update! 

After publishing my last post, I took some time off to understand how I was feeling. Simply put, I learned a lot about myself. 

I found that I wasn’t feeling useful, excited, and that I wasn’t as mindful as I usually am. I found that when I experience episodes of stress or moments in fog, that it helped to talk about these feelings with others. Even if they couldn’t do anything but listen. 

I took to revitalizing my self-care routines and practices, which helped recenter me. Once I had this time to reset, I came up with some conclusions as a result:

  • Every day is a blessing; another opportunity for us to create and decide.
  • Our lives are what we make of it. We have the power to decide what we want to do and how we want to perceive life. 
  • When you’re open with others about the stress that you feel, a lot of people are understanding. 
  • Sometimes you need a break, or to switch up your routine. 

Meditating helped me strengthen my personal connection with God, and I found that showering became another grounding ritual for me. Getting my eyebrows threaded and nails painted lifted my spirits as well. I feel like a lady again instead of Chewbacca! 


Now that I’m going back to school, I want to maintain being as mindful and present as possible. My accountability partnership has helped me become more aware of the progress I’ve made with my goals. I feel motivated to continue pursuing my goals with consistency and determination! 

My next post will be about the practices and resources I’ve used to help me be mindful of how I’m feeling. It’s important to tap into how you feel. We ask others all the time, but really, how are you feeling? And what can you do to feel better?

I’m grateful for what I’ve learned in this time off. And I can’t wait to share more!

Wishing you well,

Valencia Saint-Louis