#17: Punting Perfection, and Weekly Favorites

Sunday is probably my favorite day of the week. It’s the best day for relaxation, reflection, and planning. When you think about it, it really is the bridge between last week and the next, which is why I try to make my Sundays as calm as possible. Sundays are the end and the beginning, simultaneously. That’s wild. But also very beautiful.

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At the beginning of last week I was slacking, not gonna lie. With the newfound time in my schedule, I made sure to take some time to relax, but I think I overdid it. I hung out, slept in super late, and as a result was wayyy behind on my schoolwork. It was a real wake up call for me because before I was always on the move, pretty drained, but always on top of my work and meetings. I guess I learned the energy management part I addressed in last week’s post because I wasn’t completely exhausted, but the time management part is what needs revamping. So I want to applaud past-Valencia for learning how to step back and relax. Yay! But now I’m working to make sure future-Valencia knows that downtime has a limit too and that although I have fewer tasks, those tasks can be given more time and attention so that I do them to the best of my ability!

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Punting Perfection

Another revelation that came out of this week is the fact that sometimes I get in my own way when it comes to the projects I want to do and the work I want to put out. In fact, the only time I procrastinate on something is when it’s suuuuper important to me – which is CRAZY. But I know why I do… it’s because I want it to be perfect. I tend to put a lot of pressure on myself to achieve exponentially and to produce fantastic work even when I’m a novice at something. Which quite frankly, doesn’t make any sense.

For example, I had an assignment for my podcasting class due last week. But I was having some difficulty when it came to not getting all the recordings I needed with the equipment I rented and issues uploading my files. Basically, I knew it wasn’t going to come out the way I wanted it to. Which SUCKED to admit, but I had to once I realized I kept putting off reaching out for help and handing in what I could, for days. The other day I finally swallowed my pride after trying to work on this persistent problem I’ve been having with uploading my files and reached out to my professor for some help.

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Nothing has to be perfect, especially when you’re just starting out. If someone who has never lifted a weight in their life told me they’re going to lift 200 lbs on their first day at the gym I would look at them like they’re crazy. The same logic applies to everything else. You can’t think you’re going to come in and be this extraordinary expert when you’re still learning. And even when you’re an expert you’re still always learning!

In short, having that experience sobered me up to the fact that whenever I find myself procrastinating on something it’s an indication that:

1) I really care about the project or task,

2) I’m putting way too much pressure on myself to make it perfect, and that…

3) I need to cut myself some slack, enjoy the process, and be proud of whatever I end up creating at the end of the day. Doing my best is enough.

This past week wasn’t perfect, and that’s okay. Maybe its purpose was to give me a wakeup call. And for that, I’m very grateful.

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Wishing you relaxation, peace, and productivity this week.

Weekly Favorites

Youtube Channel: Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu

App: ToDoist – a great to-do list app that’s free, but many of the unlimited features are for the premium subscription

#16: Energy Management and Weekly Favorites

Happy Friday, everyone!

I know what you’re thinking… it’s been a while. 

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I couldn’t even tell you what kept me occupied these past two weeks. The days seem to fly by so fast now that I don’t seem to remember what I did the day before if I don’t journal or write it down somewhere. But now I’m finding space and time to sit and write. I’m getting a lot better at managing my energy, carving out alone-time, and reducing stress.

My calendar (and my room) are less chaotic, and I’ve actually gotten to a point where I feel at peace. It almost feels… suspicious. You know what I mean? It feels like because I’m not stressing out that I’m not doing enough. Which is probably just a product of associating being stressed out and “busy” – a word I never like to use – with being productive. Which is NOT the case. At least not 24/7 bad stress.

I’m learning how to work smarter instead of harder and to be intentional about what I do and why I do it. Like I mentioned in my last post, there’s a cost to everything. Being intentional about how we spend our time and energy is super important.

 

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Me to me when I try to take on the world before lunch ^

 

If you’re a student, a leader, a Type-A, or anything of that sort, here’s some advice I can offer you that’s helped me find peace these past two weeks:

  1. Ask for help when you need it. Yes, you are fully capable of doing anything you put your mind to. But you are also more productive and at peace when you have the support from others that you need to get to the next level. Let others help you.
  2. If you can help it set aside 30 minutes to 1 hour every day, at the same time, for you to you decompress and relax. Put it in your Google Calendar. I’m serious. Make it as much of a priority as your schoolwork, work, or client meetings are. Use that time to listen to your needs.
  3.  Prioritize connection. Life is more than what you do. It’s the connections you make too. Be in flow with people that make you happy and feel most alive.
  4. Take slow, deep breaths.

I hope you had a nice Valentine’s Day if you celebrate it, and that you’re showing yourself and those you love lots of love this weekend!

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Weekly Favorites

Podcast: Oprah Winfrey, Part 1 (Oprah’s Master Class: The Podcast).

Youtube Video: Oprah’s Tearful Speech at Power of Women

Article: 7 Essential Tips For First Time Managers in 2019

InterviewCharlamagne Tha God – Combatting the Stigma Around Mental Health in “Shook One” | The Daily Show

Quote: “The grass is greener where you water it”