#15: What’s the Cost?, Needing to Recharge, Weekly Favorites

Hey peeps!

Last week was my first week back to school, and it felt nice. All the classes I’m taking this semester are aligned with what I want to create, experience, and do moving forward so I’m happy about that. For example, I’m taking a class on creating podcasts (*wink* – so expect to hear my voice in the near future!) It also kinda feels good to have a schedule and see familiar faces again. I’m feeling productive, which of course, always makes me feel good.

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Introspection Time: What’s the Cost?

With the start of a new semester, I also re-celebrated the importance of mentorship, introspection, and relaxation. I spoke with wonderful people about how important it is to do things purposefully and to always ask yourself what you’re giving up whenever you decide to take on something new. As someone who is known for leading different initiatives and participating in multiple things, this was a much-needed reminder. There’s a cost to everything; saying yes to one thing means saying no to another. So yeah, I could start another club. But what is that saying no to? Yeah, I could pack my schedule with lots of meetings but is that at the expense of my personal health? What will have to give?

And that’s been kinda hard… thinking about what has to give, I mean. There’s so much I want to do but I keep trying to remind myself that:

  • I have plenty of time; I don’t have to do everything right now, at this moment in my life. 5-year plan, anyone?
  • Doing more doesn’t mean you’re getting a lot more done.
  • Delegating is necessary for survival. Lol.

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Needing to Recharge

After the full and beautiful week I had last came to a close, I realized something big. I need to take time to rest and recharge. Let me say that again for the future-me looking back at this post and nodding her head – I NEED to take time to rest and recharge. And if you’re someone who is in school, working, taking care of others, or just living a full (I never like to say busy) life, then I encourage you to soak up that reminder too. In the past couple of days, I felt like my days consisted of waking up, immediately getting to work and interacting, and coming home only to do more work and fall asleep. So naturally, my body and mind feel a little cheated. Like, hey what happened to all that relaxation and me-time we got during break? Why’d that stop?

Not to say I don’t LOVE the things that I’m doing and the connections I’m making. It’s just that everyone needs a little me-time, you know? Especially considering the fact that I consider myself an introvert (maybe an ambivert) who needs that alone-time to prevent and deal with feeling drained.

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Weekly Favorites:

This week I felt a lot closer to my loved ones and a lot more productive than usual. Sobering discussions and extensions of love kept me grounded this week. Here are some of my favorites from the past couple of days:

Podcast: Oprah’s SuperSoul Conversation with Daniel Goleman on Emotional Intelligence

Place: Target – I made a trip there this weekend and it reminded me of how much I love that place!

App: Google Calendar (my SAVING GRACE during the semester)

Quote: “The master’s tools will never dismantle the master’s house” – Audre Lorde

I hope you have an awesome week ahead, filled with introspection and plenty of time to relax.

Original Poem: Remember by Valencia Saint-Louis

Remember by Valencia Saint-Louis (inspired by Joy Harjo’s “Remember”)

 

Remember to feel.

And then, to let go.

Remember your presence,

the space you are meant to take up.

Remember to fill your cup,

to make your plate

Remember that you are a goddess

that deserves to eat.

 

Remember yourself in the company of others.

Remember your books, your crystals, your journals

your breath, and your power.

 

You are…

complete and abundant.

 

Remember your love languages

and what makes you laugh;

give to yourself and receive openly.

Remember that you are your only problem,

and your only solution.

There’s nowhere else to look.

 

Remember to take.

 

Remember, curious child, to share what you think

Remember to dance and cry when you want to

Remember the fresh feeling of night

showers that smell like African Black Soap,

the smooth Shea Butter over your cheeks,

and how magical coconut oil is.

Remember how good your touch feels,

and how amazing your body is

Remember to listen to yourself.

Remember to speak.

Remember you.

Remember.

 

#14: Prioritizing Connection, Restless Sleep, and Weekly Favorites

It feels like a lot happened this week, even though I didn’t do much. I wasn’t as productive as I have been for the past couple of weeks, but I took a lot of time to check-in with friends and connect with my family. There were a lot of phone calls, laughs, and real conversations. And now that I think about it, maybe I needed a week like that. I’ve spent so much time thinking about how I can be productive by getting stuff done, but perhaps not enough time reconnecting with my loved ones and trying to work on the relationships that matter a lot to me.

Prioritizing Connection

A major lesson this week: in the midst of trying to personally develop in your career, studies, financial pursuits, etc. make sure to prioritize your relationships with others. Relationships are what connect us. So after your meeting today, call up your best friend. Or maybe while you’re cleaning, check-in with your brother. Make time for real connection.

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Restless Sleep

Towards the beginning of this week, I had some trouble falling asleep. I kept tossing and turning. I think it’s because I kept doing important, stimulating, and creative work right before going to bed super late. So, of course, the second my tired body hit the bed my mind was like, “WHY ARE WE POWERING DOWN?? More ideas! More creativity! Time. To. Be. Up!”

Thankfully my sleep got a lot better once I:

  1. Shut down my electronics about an hour before going to sleep.
  2. Went to sleep earlier.
  3. Stopped eating at a certain time.
  4. Took some deep breaths and stretched before sleep.

 

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Now that I’m going back to school, I have to fix my sleep schedule… and quick lol. I’m ready to go back but at the same time it feels like I never left.

Weekly Favorites:

P.S. did anyone see the new M. Night Shyamalan film, Glass? I saw it yesterday and thought it was shot so well! I won’t spoil anything, but it really makes you think about our own perceptions of who the good and bad guys are.

Hope you had a week filled with connection, good sleep, and good movies!

#13: Finished Books, Sweeet Sweet Yoga, and Weekly Favorites​

Heyy peeps!

I hope you had a great week and that you’re taking some time to appreciate all that you’ve experienced and accomplished. And extending some compassion to yourself for all the things you didn’t get to do or for not being your best self 24/7. We can’t do it all, and that’s okay. We are learning, breathing, and getting better each day. And you know what? I’m proud of us for that.

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As you know I gotta keep you updated with the weekly reflections, so here it goes! (I’m playing around with the format of my weekly reflection posts; let me know what you think of this one!)

Finished Books (Yay!)

Remember one of my last posts, where I talked about information overload and confessed that I haven’t been absorbing everything I’ve tried to read and digest? Yeah? Well, guess what! I sat down and finished You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero (after “almost finishing” reading it for a month now) and I ended up finishing Becoming by Michelle Obama today too. To be honest, wrapping up You Are A Badass was such a struggle for me. I kept getting all these inspired ideas, writing out plans, and my mind just kept wandering and wandering. I guess I didn’t want the book to end, in reality. It was filled with so many gems!!

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I highly recommend Jen Sincero’s book if you’re looking for an honest, transparent and anecdotal read that will guide you in your personal development journey. Not only is it personal but it gives you ACTUAL steps to transform your thinking (and by effect, your life). It’s nice to read a motivational story but it’s another to actually put in the work and get real with yourself.

Sweeet, Sweet Yoga

Besides the success of collecting information without feeling overwhelmed, today I connected my body and my breath and gave myself some mental clarity by doing some yoga exercises. I rolled out my mat and relaxed under the guidance of Yoga with Adrienne on Youtube. I noticed there were a few areas that were super tight and needed some extra love, but it felt so good to slow down and pay attention to what my body needed. I reveled in the slow movements, the extensions, the stretches – ahhh, the stretches!

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(Self-check: how does your neck feel? Stretch it out, one side at a time and see if you’re carrying a lot of tension there. I’ve learned that a lot of us carry tension in our necks and lower back – I certainly do.)

I feel like the last half of my week was much more fulfilling than the first half (considering the fact I can’t remember too much of what happened during the first half, HA). But I did end up going to the gym a few times this week, so I’m happy about that. Nonetheless, I’m grateful for what every day brought me. I’m learning how to slow down, trust my intuition, and guide myself back to love every day.

Weekly Favorites + Reminders:

Sending you lots of encouragement and growth this week ahead!

 

Featured Image Source: Business Insider UK

Original Poem: Flow by Valencia Saint-Louis

Flow by Valencia Saint-Louis
I am the eye of the hurricane,
the eye of wisdom,
the one who sees you eye to eye
and doesn’t believe in an eye for an eye.

I enjoy flowing like waves
And growing like waves
And dropping like rain
And washing down pain

Sprinkles of love
I drizzle above
sleeping tsunamis.

Mellow watermelon,
pretty peaches
Zen is my favorite season

I like being a full moon.
The aura
of a spring afternoon.

#12: Information Overload

I’d like to think of myself as someone who is ambitious, likes to learn, and who loves personal development. I mean personal development and growth are the pillars of this website for crying out loud.

But I have to be honest, trying to absorb all the information there is out there about being your best self and getting your life in order can be exhausting. The number of podcasts, articles, apps, books, etc. that are out there can be overwhelming. And maybe I’m talking into the void here, or maybe you’re like me, and you find yourself subscribing to tens of accounts and channels, trying to improve your life. Where do you start? What do you tackle first? Ughhhh.

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Send help!

*takes a deep breath* And to be honest with you, this has been an issue for me in the past. Taking on a lot of tasks or finding a lot of resources and not knowing where to start or divide up my time. So, I’m looking to minimalize and conquer.

To focus on ONE resource at a time, and to soak up all I can from it, before moving on to the next thing. For example, I’ve been digesting information from both Michelle Obama’s Becoming (as I mentioned in my last posts), and from the book, You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero. And you know what? I’ve been reading YAAB for over a month… STILL HAVEN’T FINISHED IT.  Even though I know I want to finish it so I can internalize its lessons and move on. Even though it’s totally possible to read two books at once, I’m splitting up my time and energy and not finishing either of them – when really, I could’ve finished at least YAAB a month ago.

 

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Me to me^

 

Information overload happens not only with books of course but with social media and news and all that jazz. It’s just a lot sometimes. So I’m looking to scale back a bit, recharge, and work with what I’ve got now.

Have you ever experienced an information overload? Maybe watching the news too much has got you feeling irritated? Or maybe you’re not sure of which diet to try next between keto, paleo, avocado… In any event, I feel you.

Let’s make an effort to unplug, reset, and digest one thing at a time.

 

#11: New Year + Fresh Energy

Happy New Year everyone!

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(Side note: What a beautiful man^, am I right?)

With each new year, it seems everyone is set on creating resolutions and changing their lives. And you know what? I love it. I really do. Because even if the motivation for others is short-lived, it’s still a shift and reminder for me to continue to clarify and pursue my own goals. We all need reminders. I mean yeah, it might be annoying that everyone and their mom is now going to the gym all at once, but it’s also exciting. People are taking action. And you know what? I applaud them for that. Every small action is significant. 

But, I’m not gonna sit here and promote inconsistent action. So I have a challenge for you; what’s something you can consistently work on this year? One thing. For me for example, I’m going to do my best to blog and update this website every week. I’d love to produce content that is engaging, open, and helpful. As much fun as it is blogging about my weekly favorites and what’s going on in my life, I want to make sure everyone that reads these posts gets something useful out of them.

Let’s take this fresh energy and use it to plan for the pitfalls and days where we lack motivation. Let’s celebrate this newfound motivation and use it to create accountability pacts and incentives! WE GOT THIS! Cheeers!

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