#2: Why You Should Have An Accountability Partner

You know what’s great? Having goals. 

You know what’s not? When you don’t reach them.

I was talking to my best friend recently, and  decided to ask them to be my accountability partner. I have a lot of upcoming projects and habits I want to maintain, and I figured some support would do wonders. But then I thought, What exactly is an accountability partner, and what can I gain by having one?

Boxing Coach

I like to think of accountability partners as boxing coaches. The ones that wipe your sweat and give you pep talks. Does that really happen by the way? Or is it just in the movies?

Accountability partners are NOT people that will magically make you more productive or give you willpower. They won’t box the match for you, but they’ll give you some motivation to keep fighting.

Usually when it comes to goals, I tend to move in silence. I don’t let anyone know what I’m plotting until I’ve already accomplished it. But I started to realize that some goals (since no one was holding me accountable to them) became easier to drop. I didn’t stick with them after a while.

For me, I want an accountability partner to help motivate me to continue with my goals, and form positive habits. I’d also like someone to run all my game plans with.

Why Should I Get an Accountability Partner?

I’m so glad you asked! There’s a lot of ways an accountability partner can help you get to where you want to be. Accountability partners: motivate you, support you in what you want to accomplish, give advice and/or resources to help you move forward, and listen to how you want to improve your life. It’s nice to have someone that cares about your betterment, and keeps you on track.

Additionally, regular check-ins with your partner make you more conscious of what you want to accomplish. It also adds some pressure. Progress reports can be a bit embarrassing if you haven’t been doing what you said you would – but that makes you all the more conscious! It propels you to be consistent, to keep your promises to yourself, and to get work done.

Below I’ve included a video featuring my friend Simon Sinek, author and public speaker, to back me up on this. Okay, he’s not exactly my friend, but he’d totally agree with me!

Simon Sinek – Accountability Partners

Where to Start


My best friend and I are currently setting up a date to talk about what we want to get out of our accountability partnership. I already have a bunch of ideas, and I can’t wait to get started. When going into an accountability partnership, it’s important to:

  1. Decide what it is you want to accomplish. What goal do you want to reach? What habit do you want to create/break?
  2. Pick someone that inspires you. Someone that is reliable and can motivate you to be your best (For me, my best friend is very driven and consistent. They inspire me to be self-motivated, and they care about my success as I do theirs).
  3. Establish what you want to get out of the partnership.  How can this person help you with what you seek to accomplish? What do you need most from this person in order to feel motivated and confident about what you’re doing? Talk to your partner about what they can offer you, and make a plan of what works best.
  4. Be vocal about what you can offer your partner. This isn’t just a one-way street. Make sure your partner knows that you are just as much about their success as they are yours. Let them know about the support, skills, and resources you can provide them with to achieve their goal(s).
  5. Set up a time each week to talk about your progress. Make sure you check in with your partner every week (or at least within a convenient, consistent time frame) to discuss how each of you are doing with your respective goals. It could be through text, a phone call, FaceTime, snail mail, walkie talkie, whatever. Check up on one another. In relation to your goals talk about your: successes, challenges, observations, feelings, and reflections.

I’m looking forward to having a partner-with-purpose. A partner-in-productivity. It’ll be nice having someone I can talk to about taking over the worl- I mean, writing blog posts of course. Cheers to many more!

All the best,

Valencia Saint-Louis

3 thoughts on “#2: Why You Should Have An Accountability Partner

  1. […] Thank you, thank you *takes several bows*. Yes, I’ve been making it to the gym (after all, I can’t let this membership go to waste!). I’m working on distance running and toning up my body right now, so today I did 2.0 miles in 35 minutes including a warm up and cool down, with 4:45 seconds on and 00:40 seconds off. Then each day I alternate which region of my body I want to work. I’d say I’m off to a good start so far.  I’ve been working out with my best friend and let me tell you, she keeps me accountable. […]

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