#4: After the Fog (Life Update)


Life update! 

After publishing my last post, I took some time off to understand how I was feeling. Simply put, I learned a lot about myself. 

I found that I wasn’t feeling useful, excited, and that I wasn’t as mindful as I usually am. I found that when I experience episodes of stress or moments in fog, that it helped to talk about these feelings with others. Even if they couldn’t do anything but listen. 

I took to revitalizing my self-care routines and practices, which helped recenter me. Once I had this time to reset, I came up with some conclusions as a result:

  • Every day is a blessing; another opportunity for us to create and decide.
  • Our lives are what we make of it. We have the power to decide what we want to do and how we want to perceive life. 
  • When you’re open with others about the stress that you feel, a lot of people are understanding. 
  • Sometimes you need a break, or to switch up your routine. 

Meditating helped me strengthen my personal connection with God, and I found that showering became another grounding ritual for me. Getting my eyebrows threaded and nails painted lifted my spirits as well. I feel like a lady again instead of Chewbacca! 


Now that I’m going back to school, I want to maintain being as mindful and present as possible. My accountability partnership has helped me become more aware of the progress I’ve made with my goals. I feel motivated to continue pursuing my goals with consistency and determination! 

My next post will be about the practices and resources I’ve used to help me be mindful of how I’m feeling. It’s important to tap into how you feel. We ask others all the time, but really, how are you feeling? And what can you do to feel better?

I’m grateful for what I’ve learned in this time off. And I can’t wait to share more!

Wishing you well,

Valencia Saint-Louis

#3: Stuck in Fog


Hello all! Part of my mission with Valencia’s Voice includes reflection, and being honest with myself and others about what’s going on. So that’s exactly what I intend to do in this post. 

For the past couple of days, I’ve noticed that I don’t feel present. I wake up and go through the motions of the day. The day passes, and I end up not remembering any of it. It’s as if night comes by faster than it did before, and there’s nothing new to report. The days all feel the same, and the nights are not all that different either. 

The best way I can describe this is by saying I’ve been stuck in fog. Things are pretty hazy. My feelings aren’t negative, but nothing is clear to me. And I don’t feel as if I’m actually here

As I reflect on it now, I see that it probably stems from the lack of sleep I’m getting. As well as the dissatisfaction I feel whenever I wake up late, which happens because I go to bed too late. It’s a cycle. Sleep late, wake up late, and stay in a dream-like haze until it’s time to sleep again. 

Here’s what I’ve decided to do about it:

  1. Go to sleep earlier – develop a routine of getting ready for bed and sleeping at the same time every night. 
  2. Meditate with the intention of being more present.
  3. Find grounding rituals – things that bring me back to this present moment, such as anything observable with my five senses. 
  4. Talk about how I’m feeling with others frequently. Additionally, engage in meaningful conversations that spark my interest. Perhaps a talk with my accountability partner could bring some focus and motivation into view. 
  5. Reset and assess what it is that I find stimulating, exciting, and motivating in life. 

Understanding this state of mind is an important step to getting out of it. Life is meant to be lived fully. We are meant to experience now. Truly, all we really have is this present moment to live in. I thought it would be important to open up about this fog I’ve been in, and to set up some steps to move forward from it. 

Have any of you experienced anything similar? And if so, do you have any suggestions as to how to move forward? I would love to start a dialogue about this, and create a running list of helpful tips for others who may be feeling the same way. 

All the best,

Valencia Saint-Louis 

#2: Why You Should Have An Accountability Partner

You know what’s great? Having goals. 

You know what’s not? When you don’t reach them.

I was talking to my best friend recently, and  decided to ask them to be my accountability partner. I have a lot of upcoming projects and habits I want to maintain, and I figured some support would do wonders. But then I thought, What exactly is an accountability partner, and what can I gain by having one?

Boxing Coach

I like to think of accountability partners as boxing coaches. The ones that wipe your sweat and give you pep talks. Does that really happen by the way? Or is it just in the movies?

Accountability partners are NOT people that will magically make you more productive or give you willpower. They won’t box the match for you, but they’ll give you some motivation to keep fighting.

Usually when it comes to goals, I tend to move in silence. I don’t let anyone know what I’m plotting until I’ve already accomplished it. But I started to realize that some goals (since no one was holding me accountable to them) became easier to drop. I didn’t stick with them after a while.

For me, I want an accountability partner to help motivate me to continue with my goals, and form positive habits. I’d also like someone to run all my game plans with.

Why Should I Get an Accountability Partner?

I’m so glad you asked! There’s a lot of ways an accountability partner can help you get to where you want to be. Accountability partners: motivate you, support you in what you want to accomplish, give advice and/or resources to help you move forward, and listen to how you want to improve your life. It’s nice to have someone that cares about your betterment, and keeps you on track.

Additionally, regular check-ins with your partner make you more conscious of what you want to accomplish. It also adds some pressure. Progress reports can be a bit embarrassing if you haven’t been doing what you said you would – but that makes you all the more conscious! It propels you to be consistent, to keep your promises to yourself, and to get work done.

Below I’ve included a video featuring my friend Simon Sinek, author and public speaker, to back me up on this. Okay, he’s not exactly my friend, but he’d totally agree with me!

Simon Sinek – Accountability Partners

Where to Start


My best friend and I are currently setting up a date to talk about what we want to get out of our accountability partnership. I already have a bunch of ideas, and I can’t wait to get started. When going into an accountability partnership, it’s important to:

  1. Decide what it is you want to accomplish. What goal do you want to reach? What habit do you want to create/break?
  2. Pick someone that inspires you. Someone that is reliable and can motivate you to be your best (For me, my best friend is very driven and consistent. They inspire me to be self-motivated, and they care about my success as I do theirs).
  3. Establish what you want to get out of the partnership.  How can this person help you with what you seek to accomplish? What do you need most from this person in order to feel motivated and confident about what you’re doing? Talk to your partner about what they can offer you, and make a plan of what works best.
  4. Be vocal about what you can offer your partner. This isn’t just a one-way street. Make sure your partner knows that you are just as much about their success as they are yours. Let them know about the support, skills, and resources you can provide them with to achieve their goal(s).
  5. Set up a time each week to talk about your progress. Make sure you check in with your partner every week (or at least within a convenient, consistent time frame) to discuss how each of you are doing with your respective goals. It could be through text, a phone call, FaceTime, snail mail, walkie talkie, whatever. Check up on one another. In relation to your goals talk about your: successes, challenges, observations, feelings, and reflections.

I’m looking forward to having a partner-with-purpose. A partner-in-productivity. It’ll be nice having someone I can talk to about taking over the worl- I mean, writing blog posts of course. Cheers to many more!

All the best,

Valencia Saint-Louis

#1: My Mission

My first post! *pops champagne*

Here it is! The first brick of Valencia’s Voice. The foundation. The starter. So… where do I start?

Who Am I?

I think it’s best to start with who I am in this moment. My name is Valencia Saint-Louis. I refer to myself as a poetic optimist. I am a creative. I am a writer, a poet, a life-learner, and a musician. Some fun facts about me include: I’m a vegetarian, I love Bruno Mars, I’m studying speech language pathology at the moment, and I’m allllll about self-care!

Okay Valencia, What’s This Blog About?

After lots of reflection, I realized that most of my gifts in life have to do with one thing: my voice. From writing, singing, advising, etc. my voice has been the driving force of it all. Both literally and figuratively. What I want to do with Valencia’s Voice is to share this voice with others. I want to release all of my creations into the world with the hope that someone will see them and go, “This is just what I needed”. 

Posts will include reflection, finding vulnerability, and sharing as much as possible. I will feature my original poems and stories. If you’ll engage with me, we’ll take a look at life’s lessons, challenges, wellness, and my own personal anecdotes. I’m looking to feature covers to songs as well and anything else that finds my voice. Beyond this, I also hope to find inspiration from all those that interact with me. 

So my mission is this: to use this blog to  reflect, inspire, motivate, create, and communicate. Now that we’ve got our aims, it’s time to fire.